I haven’t been posting as often as I’d like, things have just been so busy! I’m working on winding up another term at SNHU, things at work have been a little extra crazy (my partner at work is retiring. Today was her last day), Ryan’s picking up an extra day at the Barber Shop and we’ve jumped head first into the home study process. I know that eventually life will slow down but for now we’re having a hard time keeping up. I feel like I’ve said that a few times before during this process & I’m sure it won’t be the last.
Yesterday we had our first in-home interview with the social worker who will be completing our home study. We were so nervous! I took a day off work to deep clean our house, fix a few things that had needed our attention and organize the garage. We had some friends (thanks Whitney, Matt & Blake!) who came to the rescue and helped us out. I’m telling you, we’d pass a white-glove test for sure! Where I work we have state inspections from time to time in our homes. The name of the game is for the inspector to try and find something that isn’t done correctly, isn’t clean enough or properly documented and issue a citation. I’ve been programmed through that process to expect the worst and stress out until the day of the inspection arrived. (BTW… we have one of those at work this week! Ugh!)
As the weekend arrived I had debated on skipping out on prayer with my Life Point family because I wanted to have those few extra hours to work. I’m so glad I changed my mind and made it a point to go on Saturday. Having that time to join in prayer really helped me to get my mind and my heart in the right place. I’ll be sorry to see this series on prayer end and our Saturday meetings come to a close, but this week is our last week. After prayer I ran a few errands and went back home. As I hung pictures on the wall and talked with Whitney I realized that the purpose of the home study isn’t for me to fail. In all reality, the probably want us to succeed because the social worker knows more than most people how many families are needed to welcome children into their homes. I started to calm down and not worry so much that I had a few stray dog hairs on my sofa. (Seriously, I was using a lint brush after vacuuming and scrubbing… ) I mean, we have 2 (adorable) dogs. When you have pets, you have hair. I’m certain we aren’t the only pet owners to go through a home study. Dog hair happens. My house was SUPER clean. I wasn’t going to worry.
Sunday morning arrived and while we took the week off of working in Kidspoint, Ryan and I went to church. Again, this series on prayer has just been awesome! Ryan and I have made it a goal throughout our marriage to pray together every single day. We haven’t always been successful. There are times one of us falls asleep or we lost sight of our goal in the busyness of our day. This has really reinforced with both of us how important that time is for us to have together and to build on our prayer time individually. We were reminded on Sunday that God has answered some BIG PRAYERS for us in the past, and that we know He is leading us in this journey.
As we were leaving our pastor’s wife grabbed me and asked how I was doing. It meant so much to me to talk with her for a few minutes and for her to let me know that she would be praying for us. A few other people offered words of encouragement as we were leaving. We are seriously SO LUCKY to have such an amazing & supportive church family. I don’t think we would have made it this far without their love and support.
I don’t want to go into detail of our actual interview with the social worker. I mean, if you want details feel free to ask one of us. It’s just a lot to type. We talked for quite a few hours. She was pretty easy to talk to even if the questions were a little difficult to answer at times. As she began to wrap up this part of the interview process she asked for the grand tour of our house. We walked around….. for all of 5 minutes. She didn’t use a white glove. She didn’t look in my closets or cabinets that were so clean and organized. Ryan and I laughed after she left at how hard we had worked for a 5 minute tour of our house. She loved our dogs (they were on their best behavior!) She’ll be back in 3 weeks.
We have a LOT to do in 3 weeks to be ready for her. We’ll be running around a little extra crazy to get all of our forms and documents gathered, signed, sealed and delivered. We have our fire inspection tomorrow, a safety check in 3 weeks when she returns, physicals, and about 17 other things to gather and complete on top of some parenting/adoption training that’s required. But, once all is said and done we should be FINISHED with our home study in 3 weeks. That’s seriously incredible! She promised that she would get us done as quickly as possible and she meant it!
We have to have at least a crib before she comes back in three weeks. I haven’t really let myself look at baby stuff since we started this journey. There were too many unk
nowns and “what if’s” for me to let my heart travel down those isles or look over those pages online. I mean, we know how we want to decorate our nursery, but we haven’t purchased the first thing. That was just dreaming. Dreams are becoming a reality. Big Prayers are being answered. This is going to happen. We’re going to have a real, live crib in OUR house. I’ll probably cry. It’ll probably stay in the box for a while longer. I’ll probably still avoid those isles and pages online. But folks, we’re buying a live, genuine, safety-check approved baby crib! AHHHH!
We still have some fundraising to do. We still have a long way to go, but look how far we’ve come. In just 4.5 short months God has taken me from broken-hearted to full of hope. He’s taken what seemed impossible and is making a way. This journey is difficult and crazy and stressful, but I am so thankful that Ryan and I get to travel this road together. We’re praying big prayers that we will be completely done with fundraising by Christmas 2015! Hey, it can happen!
P.S. my partner at work who is retiring is the best! I seriously don’t know how we’re going to do it without her. She has been such an incredible support to me since I took on this role in our agency. When I came in to the office today there was a picture hanging on the door to my office that I absolutely LOVED! There’s this awesome art gallery (Open Door Art Studio) in Columbus that sells art that is exclusively created by adults with Developmental Disabilities. I have this great painting in my office from the gallery that I got as a wedding gift from my friends at work. Anyways, Rita came to my office and said, “This is for the baby’s room! “ I LOVE it and it will ABSOLUTELY be going in our baby’s room. It’s always been a goal of mine to have only original art in our house that I find in cool little places. I’m so excited that this is the newest piece to be added to my collection!